Looking back at my younger years, I don’t regret the mistakes I made, because at the end of the day they shaped me into the person I am today. There is, however, a few things I want to tell younger me. 1. Stressing about situations, won’t change it.
I’ve had countless nights where I couldn’t sleep because I was either stressing about people who, I don’t even have in my life anymore or about life in general and at the end of the day, all that did was keep me up at night and make me unhappy. 2. Fear will get you nowhere.
Growing up I was always afraid to try things that made me happy. Always afraid of what my parents might think if I didn’t follow what they wanted me to do and that never got me anywhere. It took me about two years to stop being afraid of change and what people might say about my choices, and I’ve never been happier. 3. True love does not hurt.
Love. I think this was probably the hardest thing ever. I started dating this guy in matric and at that point in my life, it was the best thing ever. I fell in love so hard that I didn’t see how he was changing me into someone I promised myself I never wanted to be. I was so blindly in love that I stayed in a relationship, that wasn’t only unhealthy, but not right for almost 4 and a half years. What that taught me, was that I’m stronger than I thought I was and to never give my all to someone who only gives a quarter of them and most importantly. Love is not supposed to hurt.
I know most of you probably expected the traditional glow up post but this is definitely not that type of glow up. I glowed up in a sense of who I am as a person. I used to be so hell-bent on making everyone else happy, that I forgot about myself until I realized I had to be happy too. I’m happy to say that I’m slowly growing more into the person I’ve always wanted to be and I’m happier that I’ve ever been.
I’ve always wanted to do a glow up/advice to younger me post and I’m so happy to be collaborating with simplychanteblog on this. I’ve been a fan of this young lady since I started following her on Instagram a while ago.
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